It's almost Valentine's Day, which is that time of year when we show our loved ones that we cherish them. However, it can also be a difficult day of loss, sadness, and perhaps envy. But what if we focused more on LOVE than only romantic love? Valentine's Day can be a time to refocus our lives and tune in with ourselves. Are we showing ourselves love and care? Are we putting effort into the relationships that matter to us?
Whether you're flying solo or in a longterm relationship, ask yourself this same question: How can I show myself more love and care this year? Here are some tips to practice self-love and become more connection with yourself and others:
Practice Self-compassion: On Valentine's Day, it's easy to compare ourselves to others and feel like we're not enough. But this kind of thinking is unhelpful and makes us feel ashamed. Instead, try to be kind and compassionate to yourself. Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer to a good friend. You are amazing as you are!
Connect with Others: Spending time with loved ones can help you feel more connected. When we allow others to care for us, we feel more connected to them, and it makes our life more meaningful. If you're not able to physically be with someone, connect with them virtually! Spend time with those you love and who care for you.
Do Something for Yourself: Treat yourself to something special, whether that's a bubble bath, a nice meal, or a movie. Doing something for yourself can show yourself love. Do something you love and say to yourself, "I'm doing this for you because I love you." It might feel weird to say, but, wow, is it powerful!
Reflect on your Relationships: Take some time to reflect on the relationships in your life, including the one you have with yourself. Think about what you value in a relationship and what you need to feel fulfilled and happy. Are you surrounding yourself with people that bring you down or encourage you to live outside of your values? Who we surround ourselves with deeply impacts how we live. Prioritize the people that encourage you to grow into who you want to be.
Challenge Negative Thoughts: If you find yourself having negative thoughts about yourself or your relationships, try to challenge them. Remind yourself of your strengths and the positive qualities you bring to your relationships. If you're single and don't want to be, remember that you ARE good enough. You have so much to offer, so pour it into yourself and your friends. And when a partner comes along, expand the love to them.
Make taking care of yourself a priority every day, not just on Valentine's Day. It can be difficult to start, but by practicing self-care and self-compassion, you can build a strong foundation of self-love that will help you navigate even the toughest days.
If you're wanting to grow in self-love and self-compassion, connect with a therapist. Therapy can support you on your self-love journey and through any difficult changes along the way.
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